Individual Coaching & Counseling:
The Support You Need to Find Your Authentic Sexual Self
Individual Coaching & Counseling
Whether it’s one’s own sense of sexual identity, or understanding how to make sexual relationships more resilient, I would be honored to help guide you on your path. I work in ways that are inclusive and supportive of all genders, orientations, relationship structures, sexual styles. My approach is trauma informed, neurodiversity inclusive, and sex worker affirming, and when it comes to our bodies I take an approach that is grounded in somatics and HAES.
I’ve been working in sexual health in some capacity, and learning about and working with different aspects of healthy human sexual expression for about two decades now.
This is mostly because I love learning and talking about both sexuality and communication, but after getting enough requests for support exploring healthy sexuality, I decided to begin officially working towards certification for sex therapy and providing sexuality coaching and counseling as well as education, and I’ve loved the shift to including direct support and guidance, too.
Asking for support with issues of sexuality, sexual function, and relationships can be intensely vulnerable and challenging, and I applaud you taking steps towards cultivating more connection, awareness, and satisfaction with this facet of yourself and your partner(s). With a deep interest and fascination with human sexuality and a few decades of exploration and education, please be assured that your particular configuration of questions, experiences, desires, interests, and concerns is not likely to be shocking or off-putting to me at all, even if you might be feeling monstrous or terrible, or just terribly self-conscious about it, and I’m excited to explore things with you to see where some shifts can be made that will leave you feeling freer and more comfortable. I will hold your vulnerable truths in a compassionate, interested, non-judgmental space, so we can look at them together and highlight places where you might be able to bring more balance, delight, and juiciness into your erotic relationships with yourself and others. Whether you're looking to understand yourself more fully, overcome challenges, boost confidence, or simply enrich your intimate connections, therapy and coaching offer personalized guidance, support, and education tailored to your unique needs and goals.
With seven years of working as a therapist, over a decade of nonbinary and transgender group and individual peer support facilitation, and around two decades of working in sexual health, I offer support from a well-informed and place that includes my experiences as a counselor and educator, my own lived experiences and education, as well as the experience gained supporting hundreds of people at various stages of transition and their families over the past 10+ years. As a non-monogamous, kinky, nonbinary transgender person myself, I can bring a unique understanding to my work with clients of all genders on finding their authentic sexuality and deepening their relationship with themselves and their partners (if partnership is even a desire).
How do I know if I’m ready for the work of exploring what healthy sexuality looks like for me?
I’m ready to take advantage of a judgment free space where I can explore parts of myself that I’ve been reluctant to examine.
I’m ready to name things that are not working for me and lean into the challenge of identifying and making changes in my patterns.
I’m ready to have some hard conversations with myself and/or my partner(s) to create boundaries that feel good for me.
I’m ready to look at the undesired impacts on my intimate relationships and get real about what changes would need to happen to create relationships with myself and others that feel safer, more comfortable, more fulfilling, and more authentic.
I’m ready to put a spotlight on my relationship to pleasure and any barriers that might be blocking me from connecting more fully to my sexual self.
Coaching vs. Counseling
What is the difference and is coaching a good fit for you?
While I am a licensed mental health professional and I do work in private practice with some clients, I wanted to be able to offer more options to people who might benefit from the support I can give as a coach. In coaching, I understand that safeguarding my clients’ confidentiality is an essential cornerstone of an effective practice and I will do everything in my power to protect your private information to the same standards as a counseling relationship. I will, of course, also be bringing all of my professional knowledge to our coaching relationship, and the work that we would be doing together in coaching, while often similar to counseling, has its differences.
As a coach, I do not offer mental health diagnosis and I don’t work in a crisis support capacity or do clinical therapeutic work. If a coaching client should experience a crisis or other concern that needs the level of therapeutic support offered by a counselor, or they want to work with someone who can provide a diagnosis, I will do my best to refer them to a counselor who can offer the particular support they need. Additionally, counseling can only be offered in the state where I am licensed, but I can offer coaching to people anywhere in the world. I also do not accept insurance as a counselor or coach and because of this my sessions are available on a sliding scale to everyone.
What should I expect from coaching?
We will work together to identify your goals and I will support you as you work to achieve them. Our work will include a significant amount of education about human development, neurobiology, the body’s stress response, conscious and unconscious coping strategies (and how to make more conscious choices), human sexuality and whatever else will support a deeper, more authentic understanding of yourself and your process.
I’m likely to give you worksheets, readings, and some assignments that will help you in your process, but never fear, it’s up to you how much work you’d like to do outside of session. If you prefer to do all of your work in session with me, that’s A-OK, but the process will move more slowly.
My goal as a coach is to be a supportive guide for you in developing a healthier, more authentic relationship with yourself and your sexuality, and strengthening your capacity for resiliency and joy. You deserve to heal and grow and live a juicy, fulfilling life!